Have you ever wondered what it takes for a girl to become your girlfriend? You might be thinking, “well duhh, just ask her”. In its simplest form, yes, this is true. However, you have to know when, where, and how to ask her for it to work out to your benefit.
If you’re asking this, you probably let that one girl slip away, or you got a girl to agree to be your girlfriend, only for her to leave you shortly thereafter. Well, what are the exact steps you need to take to actually get and keep yourself a loving, loyal, and amazing girlfriend? I’m going to be sharing with you the exact things you need to focus on to make this happen.
Have An Abundance Mindset
This may seem counter-intuitive but this is absolutely important. Forget the days of going to school and having a single crush on a girl and trying to do everything to win her over. If you aren’t dating multiple women, you should not even be trying to get a girl to be your girlfriend. It’s harsh, but it’s reality. If you are pouring all of your efforts into trying to win one girl, you are mentally putting yourself into the wrong state.
This is the fastest way to start developing ONEitis. You start to focus on just one woman and obsess over her to the point where you start making dumb decisions. Your emotions slowly take over and end up developing needy, beta behavior. This will turn most, if not all women off. Any chance you had with her will fly out the window faster than you can close it. Even worse, she’ll just keep you in the friend zone indefinitely using you as her emotional tampon.
Hang Out, Have Fun, Hook Up
Once you start dating girls, your number one priority should actually be trying to NOT make her your girlfriend. Seems counterintuitive right? Well, being counterintuitive is going to be a major recurring theme in the art of seduction.
Your primary goal when dating women is to just hang out, have fun, and hook up. This is a very important concept I first learned about from dating coach Corey Wayne. He talks about it in his book How To Be A 3% Man
You need to be fun, playful, and show her a good time on dates. Do not show neediness or any angry emotions towards her. You need to be a solid, confident, fun, funny, socially smart, and masculine man. If you can show her you are this type of man, your dates will be fun and will lead to sex almost guaranteed.
All you need to do is maintain this same pattern with all of the girls you date. Eventually, they WILL want to be your girlfriend. You will not even need to bring it up.
One quick note I want to bring up that’s VERY important. NEVER EVER EVER try to guilt trip a girl to try and be your girlfriend. Telling her why you would make such a great boyfriend and all the great things you do for her will lead you down the road to being single. FAST. Just don’t do it.
Make Sure You’re Ready
Look, if you can just do the things I’ve told you above, she’s almost guaranteed to want something more serious with you. The question is, are you ready to commit? I’ve done this many times, and I personally know other guys that get into these situations. You’re dating multiple girls and having a great time and about 2-3 months into it, she wants something more. This is where you have to decide what you want with this girl, and if she’s the right fit for you.
If you are NOT ready to commit, then you need to put your foot down and end things. Do not get forced into something that you don’t want because you just want sex or you feel guilty. Also, do not just settle because you’re scared or worried you won’t find someone else. This is why having an abundance mindset is so critical. When you commit from guilt or fear, you are setting up your relationship for failure.
Make Sure She’s Ready
If you’ve done everything right, she will usually subtly bring up wanting to be your girlfriend.
Here are some signs that you know she wants a relationship with you:
- She’ll ask you “Hey, so what are we?”
- She’ll start making comments about how she’s not sure what exactly it is you’re looking for
- She’ll start bringing up some of her friends that are getting into relationships
- She’ll start hinting that she’s not seeing other people
- She’ll ask if you’re sleeping with other women
It is imperative that you wait until she gives you these signs before you even think about bringing up the fact of an exclusive relationship.
Wanting a relationship is a feminine trait. If you are the one who wants it before she does, you are not being in your masculine. She will feel that and will pull away from you. Her bringing it up first also plants the idea in her mind that she is the one making the decision. This gives her the sense that it was fully her choice and she is fully ready and committed. If you bring it up first, this will make her feel pressured. She’ll feel forced to make a decision, which limits her freedom of choice.
Like the great philosopher Thich Nhat Hanh said “You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free”
Ask Her To Be Your Girlfriend
Once all of the other criteria have been met, you can finally ask her to be your girlfriend and she will gleefully accept the offer. There are a lot of fun and creative ways to ask her so make sure you give her a great experience. When a girl is truly ready to be your girlfriend, she will be head over heels when you bring it up and will remember the exact date. She will also remember exactly what you did to ask her out so don’t be lame. You don’t want your anniversary story to be that you two were watching a movie and after it was over you asked her to be your girlfriend.
Go out there and get creative! You can even comment below with your own success stories if you have some.
Enjoy Having An Amazing Girlfriend
That’s it boys, that’s all there is to it. Now go out there and be the champions that you are.